Painful Memories
So lately I have been thinking about whether or not I want to try and find a new gf. Usually my problem is a lack of time due to work, Anyways this is always a back-n-forth issue in my head. Depending on what time you catch me you may get a different answer when asking me if im interested in finding a new gf. It's been almost a year now since the last one. WOW just thinking about it....that was forever ago. The thing I miss most is that feeling of being with somebody who wants and cares for you. And something that I've noticed is that when I do have a gf I become a better person. I'm a lot happier, think a lot clearer, and so on. Probably the reason why this whole thing has been stiring up in my head again lately is because it seems every time i turn around another one of my friends finds a new lover. And I feel like a 3rd wheel. No I'm not paniced that I'm never gone have anyone again. No this isnt one of those sappy emo blogs complainging that my life sucks. Its nothing more than an expression of whats on my mind today. I don't think im gonna go out looking because I dont like meeting someone with the intent to date them, rather I like when i meet someone and it turns into something more. So hopefully someone will come by that strikes my interest.
So here is a list of what I'm looking for in a girl. Explore my mind a little, that sort of thing. Not actually LOOKING for a girl, but what I want my future wife/girlfriend/otherhalf to be like... I'm trying to keep this from being superficial, so it'll be all about personality.
*I want a girl who is willing to cook, clean, do household chores, etc. Not because 'it's a woman's job' but because I want to learn how to cook and want to be able to cook with my wife when I get older in a large kitchen I/we designed. Weird fantasy, I know, but hey. Cleaning goes fast when everyone pitches in, but it can be fun with a little music and just being together. And I don't want to have to clean up after someone all the time. I'll do it all, too, so it's nothing to do with stereotypes.
*I want a girl who can understand computers, video games, and such and enjoy them.
*I like to have someone to talk to about my ideas, dreams, what not and I hate telling people who aren't really interested because it makes me feel like they don't care and that everything I say bounces off of them. Also, if they care, but don't understand, I feel like I'm just telling someone who's helpless. I want someone will bounce ideas off of me, too, and come to me for help when they have an idea they're not sure how to execute.
*I want someone who's genuinely interested in what I have to say. "No shit!" obviously, but I like to know someone can offer me a little advice when I'm bugged.
*I want someone who will compromise or hear me out, instead of arguing. My parents argued too damn much and I know it can all be settled if you talk things out. I don't like arguing and I don't want someone who will argue with me over the stupidest things.
*I don't want someone who thinks there should be no secrets- there should be no MAJOR secrets (cheating, stealing, etc.) but some things can be kept to yourself. After all, we all deserve a little piece of ourselves. That said, I don't want a girl who's afraid to tell me things, because some secrets should be told- if it's upsetting or if you want to tell it, tell it! Don't hold it in. But if you don't want to share it, don't force yourself to.
*I like a girl who is shy, but I also like a girl who is outspoken. Two sides of the same coin, I know. But I can be downright shy around new people, but I loosen up after a while. I don't mind an outgoing girl, but shyness is cute! Either way or both ways, really.
*I like a girl with her own tastes. No followers! Be yourself! No sheep! Beastiality is BAD! We can share all the same tastes as long as she TRUELY likes them and isn't just trying to fit in or something. It's a relationship, not a clique.
*I like a girl who's smart, someone I can hold conversations with. I like a girl who likes to read, watch TV, movies, etc. that provoke a little thought. I have alot of deep intellectual thoughts in my head, and I need someone to share them with. I also like someone who has those thoughts as well, so they can give me something to think about.
*I like a girl who's not TOO smart. A little mindless action is fun! Being too uptight about intelligence is bad- no one is perfect. We all need to have imperfections because it's the imperfections that make girls beautiful, not flawless skin, sharp features, and perfect bodies.
*A girl with a varied style. This includes in literature, music, and clothing. I don't like to be too superficial, but I like a girl who wears baggie clothing every now and then. I like a girl who doesn't obsess over one band constantly, even if they have a favorite all time band. VARIETY IS THE SPICE OF LIFE.
* I want a girl who is not slutty... to me thats just unattractive and it makes her more likely to have caught something...eww
* I want a girl who is not bitchy. No one likes being around people that are overly moody and being arrogant kinda ties into that
* I want someone who is middle of the line when it comes to being a homebody vs being a 24/7 party-er
*No drama queens please!
*I dont have a problem with people who are highly into religion or politics. I dont have a problem with people who like tho share their views and opinions of religionand politics. I do have a problem with people that try to force their beliefs on you when it comes to religion or politics.
*Someone who isnt too routine and perdictable
*Jealousy...ahh jealously. This is a simple subject with me. I think its dumb. I understand that its human nature to be jealous, but I just dont get jealous. If I see that my gf is talking to another guy and isnt trying to hide it from me then I have no problem with that. I also dont have a problem with a girl who mostly has guy friends.
*Communication. Its the key to life. When something is wrong, tell me about it. Let me help you, even if its that you have a problem with me. Dont go telling 50 other people and not me, beciase then I get the twisted version of what you said. Im a pretty easy person to talk to.
*Cheaters need not inquire. From what I have seen in the past from people I know/know of...once a cheater always a cheater.
*And how could I forget...someone who is NOT clingly!!! I mean I love spending time with the one I'm with but occasionally I need a day with the guys or a night alone...im not even a big fan of daily phone calls, but I'll do it anyway IF youre already my gf.
Do i want too much?
Chris's Memories Cause Him Pain At 12:35 PM
So here is a list of what I'm looking for in a girl. Explore my mind a little, that sort of thing. Not actually LOOKING for a girl, but what I want my future wife/girlfriend/otherhalf to be like... I'm trying to keep this from being superficial, so it'll be all about personality.
*I want a girl who is willing to cook, clean, do household chores, etc. Not because 'it's a woman's job' but because I want to learn how to cook and want to be able to cook with my wife when I get older in a large kitchen I/we designed. Weird fantasy, I know, but hey. Cleaning goes fast when everyone pitches in, but it can be fun with a little music and just being together. And I don't want to have to clean up after someone all the time. I'll do it all, too, so it's nothing to do with stereotypes.
*I want a girl who can understand computers, video games, and such and enjoy them.
*I like to have someone to talk to about my ideas, dreams, what not and I hate telling people who aren't really interested because it makes me feel like they don't care and that everything I say bounces off of them. Also, if they care, but don't understand, I feel like I'm just telling someone who's helpless. I want someone will bounce ideas off of me, too, and come to me for help when they have an idea they're not sure how to execute.
*I want someone who's genuinely interested in what I have to say. "No shit!" obviously, but I like to know someone can offer me a little advice when I'm bugged.
*I want someone who will compromise or hear me out, instead of arguing. My parents argued too damn much and I know it can all be settled if you talk things out. I don't like arguing and I don't want someone who will argue with me over the stupidest things.
*I don't want someone who thinks there should be no secrets- there should be no MAJOR secrets (cheating, stealing, etc.) but some things can be kept to yourself. After all, we all deserve a little piece of ourselves. That said, I don't want a girl who's afraid to tell me things, because some secrets should be told- if it's upsetting or if you want to tell it, tell it! Don't hold it in. But if you don't want to share it, don't force yourself to.
*I like a girl who is shy, but I also like a girl who is outspoken. Two sides of the same coin, I know. But I can be downright shy around new people, but I loosen up after a while. I don't mind an outgoing girl, but shyness is cute! Either way or both ways, really.
*I like a girl with her own tastes. No followers! Be yourself! No sheep! Beastiality is BAD! We can share all the same tastes as long as she TRUELY likes them and isn't just trying to fit in or something. It's a relationship, not a clique.
*I like a girl who's smart, someone I can hold conversations with. I like a girl who likes to read, watch TV, movies, etc. that provoke a little thought. I have alot of deep intellectual thoughts in my head, and I need someone to share them with. I also like someone who has those thoughts as well, so they can give me something to think about.
*I like a girl who's not TOO smart. A little mindless action is fun! Being too uptight about intelligence is bad- no one is perfect. We all need to have imperfections because it's the imperfections that make girls beautiful, not flawless skin, sharp features, and perfect bodies.
*A girl with a varied style. This includes in literature, music, and clothing. I don't like to be too superficial, but I like a girl who wears baggie clothing every now and then. I like a girl who doesn't obsess over one band constantly, even if they have a favorite all time band. VARIETY IS THE SPICE OF LIFE.
* I want a girl who is not slutty... to me thats just unattractive and it makes her more likely to have caught something...eww
* I want a girl who is not bitchy. No one likes being around people that are overly moody and being arrogant kinda ties into that
* I want someone who is middle of the line when it comes to being a homebody vs being a 24/7 party-er
*No drama queens please!
*I dont have a problem with people who are highly into religion or politics. I dont have a problem with people who like tho share their views and opinions of religionand politics. I do have a problem with people that try to force their beliefs on you when it comes to religion or politics.
*Someone who isnt too routine and perdictable
*Jealousy...ahh jealously. This is a simple subject with me. I think its dumb. I understand that its human nature to be jealous, but I just dont get jealous. If I see that my gf is talking to another guy and isnt trying to hide it from me then I have no problem with that. I also dont have a problem with a girl who mostly has guy friends.
*Communication. Its the key to life. When something is wrong, tell me about it. Let me help you, even if its that you have a problem with me. Dont go telling 50 other people and not me, beciase then I get the twisted version of what you said. Im a pretty easy person to talk to.
*Cheaters need not inquire. From what I have seen in the past from people I know/know of...once a cheater always a cheater.
*And how could I forget...someone who is NOT clingly!!! I mean I love spending time with the one I'm with but occasionally I need a day with the guys or a night alone...im not even a big fan of daily phone calls, but I'll do it anyway IF youre already my gf.
Do i want too much?
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